Manipulation is an awful tactic that narcissist use to get you to do what they want. Unfortunately, we are at a time where there seem to be narcissistic people everywhere. A lot of the time it is in our own home and we do not realize it.
What is a narcissist?
“Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.” – Wikipedia
Manipulation – def: control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously.
Part of the strategy of being manipulated is to have you not realize that you are. A lot of adults grow up with major problems that they do not know where it stems from. It becomes their identity when really it is just the results of manipulative parents or caretakers.
Here are some tell-tale signs that you are or were manipulated. These will help you to identify what is going on so you can stop the cycle
1. You Trust No One
Are you paranoid or cautious about every relationship in your life? Do you stay up at night wondering if someone is just toying with you in a relationship? If you struggle with trusting friends and a spouse without reason this is one of the biggest signs of manipulation.
2. You Apologize For Everything
It is great to apologize when you are in the wrong. It is a problem when you apologize for the simplest things that do not matter.
3. You Don’t Even Know Yourself
The day will come where you realize you do not even know what your likes are. You have been so wrapped in your manipulator’s hobbies and passions that probably don’t even have any of your own.
4. You Can’t Make Decisions
Indecisive about where to eat every day for lunch? Manipulation makes you unsure of yourself and your own knowledge which leaves you questioning everything.
5. Explosive Anger
Can you keep it together for awhile but then explode at the smallest thing? This comes from the insecurity that manipulation can put you in.
6. You Secretly Dread Spending Time With Family
You put up with the act that you love being together but deep down you stress about it for days to weeks.
7. Extremely Insecure
Eating, hobbies, social life, and appearance to name a few
8. Feel Led To Perfection
You have to be perfect with everything you do or you feel your world will fall apart.
9. Have Addictive Behavior
Of course, this can go along with other things but it is a big trait with adults who were abused or manipulated as children. In hope to fill the void your parents created.
10. Constant Anxiety
Unexplained anxiety and uneasiness are one of the biggest. You don’t understand the anxiety you hold but you know you cannot get it under control.
11. You Hold Guilt
Guilt tripping is a major tactic used by manipulators. If used enough on a young child they may hold guilt even into their adult years. High chance you feel guilty for things your manipulator did.
12. You Think Extremely Low Of Yourself
You may catch yourself never caring for your own problems. You will hold emotional baggage in because your manipulator has always made it about themselves.
13. You Are Physically Sick
Do you feel sick all the time but they only thing the doctor diagnoses it as is stress. Stress can destroy a body. We are not meant to be in a constant state of stress. Stress is a warning signal to the body.
14. Cannot Handle Confrontation
You easily back down from a disagreement in fear.
15. You Don’t Handle Jokes
Most likely your manipulator has used cruel jokes against you. Leaving you not able to handle friendly jokes and banter. They easily frustrate you because you feel the person is attacking you.
Be on the lookout for articles on how to handle manipulative people!