Motherhood can be the hardest but most satisfying relationship you experience in life.
There are many phases you go through with motherhood and with each phase comes new challenges. As a mom to three young ones I find myself thinking on some days, “There is no way it can get harder than this.” Only to have a mom of teens tell me “it gets harder.” Then my hope is restored when I see another mother close to her teen daughter.
One of the phases I myself went through and many friends I know is the “where the hell am I” phase. It happens usually around the time toddlers are not so dependent. Whether they are heading off to preschool, using the potty on their own, or simply dressing themselves around this time mothers may experience this phase.
You find that your time was so wrapped up in your children that you forgot about yourself. This is completely natural and normal. In a way, we have to let go of who we are for a short time just to keep these little humans alive.
But, when your children get to the more independent phase it is time to find yourself again. Mothers who cling to their children can create damaging relationships. No child (or adult) wants their mother obsessed with them. There comes a time we have to let go in a way and move on.
One of the first steps is to find your purpose and passions again. What dreams and goals fueled you before children. Maybe these posts will help you find that…
“I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase – living a purpose-driven life. Sound good, right? But does it seem a little far away while you’re super busy raising your family?”
I really like these tests because they helped me understand some aspects of my unhappiness and a few things I needed to do to change.”
“To find yourself in motherhood, you have to lose a little of yourself first.”
“There is one lifehack I’ve learned to do, however, that has at least helped me stay focused on my overall goals, and I want to share it with you today. It’s called a vision board. If you ever feel like you are balancing too many things at once, then you should give this a try!”
“One of my favorite things to say to an overwhelmed mama is this: you cannot be everything to everyone all at once. Simplify.”
“I used to laugh when my mom would casually mention how fast her life was going. In my opinion, I felt like it wasn’t going fast enough! I was ready to go to college, I was ready to pay my own rent, and I was ready to live.
And then the unthinkable happened; I lived.”
“Here at The Midlife Mamas, I share tips that I’ve learned from years of intentional parenting. I’ll also share with you the how’s and why’s of what made my tips work for our family as well as actionable steps that you can take to make them work for you as well.”